Case File 025 - False Front
Photo credit: Ángel López @angelslopezl
Never judge a book by its cover, it is the content that will tell you the real story. Some people can present a very strong, positive front, appearing to the rest of the world and themselves that they are doing ‘amazing’, but in real fact they are just soft, weak and hurt within.
I had the opportunity to meet stage four-cancer patient Marley. At that point in her illness, she was willing to give any form of alternative healing a try. Her friend James had referred her to me, and brought me to her residence.
When we entered Marley’s home, I found that she was staying with several tenants. Her home was sparsely decorated.
She offered us coffee as we sat at the dining table facing the main entrance.
During our conversation, I brought up her latest chemotherapy session, and she replied with full confidence, “I’m feeling great! Later on, I’m going to the park gym to do some workouts!”
She added, “I even prepared my dinner of Chinese sausage claypot rice, and I added extra roast pork, that will make it taste even better.”
She sounded really positive for someone in her situation. But I can see the fear, regrets, remorse and agony in her personal vibrations. These were eating her from the inside, which was more painful than anyone could imagine. This is what I call, THE FACE OF CANCER.
I told her that in order to heal her condition, she needed to face old emotions that she had buried for decades. Once these emotions are released, she will need to clear them with constant awareness and realisation.
She interrupted, “Can! Of course! I am already, I fear nothing now, and there’s nothing stopping me from recovering from my condition. Bring it on!”
I repeated again telling her that, this would not be easy, as we would go into her subconscious state of mind and the same time maintaining her conscious state of mind to deal with the backlog issues. And it could be very painful, reliving all those moments.
She quickly replied, “Can! Can! No problem! I’ve been through worse; nothing can change my mind now. I am very positive that I can handle it!”
She then excused herself to the washroom before we began.
Left alone with James, I asked if he knew anything of her past. James revealed that she had gone through a very bad divorce about fifteen years ago and lost her children. Later, she almost went into bankruptcy, because she was a guarantor for a long-time friend, who disappeared when the time came for payment.
Since then, she had had to work long hours to pay off the debts, and tried her best to suppress and forget about these issues.
I asked James for his help in showing her these, and other issues had to be confronted during her healing, and this time she will have to clear them for good. James agreed.
When Marley returned, she was all ready to go. “Come, come! Let’s begin the healing, I still have to go for my brisk walk later.”
James explained to Marley what we would be doing and she was totally lost for words for a few minutes, knowing that she would be unearthing old skeletons from her closet.
When she came back to herself, she was adamant on refusing, claiming ,“No! No! No! I am NOT going to go there again. This is not what I have in mind, I am not ready, and I don’t want to face those issues again… those are the past and I have long forgotten about it…. and there is no need to bring it out now…I am happy now, and I am living a good life…it doesn’t matter about the past…I already forgotten what happened.”
James calmed her rambling and I jumped in to explain that we did not have to if she wasn’t ready – she had made the choice to decline, and I was bound to respect that.
We left the house, and James was apologetic about his friend’s behaviour,
At the end of the day it was still Marley’s choice to decide how she would experience her life. All we could do is to reach out and offer to assist in her healing if she wished.
We often see people putting up false fronts to hide their worries, fears, anxieties and other negativities. The more these negatives are hidden, the deeper they seep into our physical and subtle bodies.
When the bodies can no longer suppress these negativities, they will erupt in all ways, all manners, and all forms as challenges into one’s life to bring to one’s attention. For Marley, it was cancer.
Status: Case Closed in January 2017